TalkBack Tuesday: C’mon People Now

I grew up in a small town in a time when people weren’t focused on a cellular device while being out and about. We held doors for each other and shared umbrellas in rain storms. Now, of course not everyone in a small town is a nice person, but sometimes in this big city, I feel lost in the hustle and bustle. Especially when all my brief encounters are with people who are so disconnected from the world around them.

Q1. Would you rather live in a small town where everyone knows your beeswax or in a big city where it’s tough to find a friendly face?

A1. I have found that if you look hard enough, even a big city can feel like a small town. Those who I’ve invested in, know my beeswax but I am still able to maintain a certain level of anonymity in the city. I’m also mature enough to know that just because someone knows your business, doesn’t mean they know you.

Q2. Would you rather invest in online relationships or live encounters with strangers?

A2. Ooooh, that’s a crap shoot. There are so many lost connections that the WWW has helped me rekindle the dying embers of those relationships, that wouldn’t be possible without the assistance of FB, Instagram and Twitter. But it is always fun to roll the dice with the strangers sharing your interests. The way I see it, you wouldn’t be where you are doing the same thing, at the same time, if you didn’t have similar interests. And that’s one thing you have in common, think of all the other things you might connect on. A stranger is just a friend you haven’t met.

Q3. Is it better to be alone and online or surrounded by people without?

A3. I love people. I love the instant gratification of the laughter and shared experiences. My Hubby and I try to put our phones away when we’re out in the world (as long as there’s no pressing work to be done, i.e.; this blog) and the first person to reach for their phone pays the bill. It can be a challenge but everyone who’s had to go without their social device for a few days knows, that by day 2, it’s liberating. Maybe it’s something I’ll encourage more of in the future.

I feel like I have been droning on and on lately about my love/hate relationship with the web. And that’s exactly what it is. A web of time sucking social encounters that can wait, but it just keeps sucking me in. I think of how productive I could be, if only I’d put my phone down. So, in the future you will find me here, there and everywhere, but no matter where I am, I will try and be present. And that’s my gift to you.

TalkBack Tuesday: C’mon People Now

Who Will You Choose To Be?

Each day we are offered opportunities to make a great first impression. At the bank, laundromat, grocery store, or gym, even in the dog park. These places are full of strangers who could easily become friends. Especially in a city, there are strangers everywhere. People who don’t know who they’re missing. And each person is a chance for us to prove that the person we are and the person we hope to be aren’t so very far apart.

Are you a Princess? Superhero? Jokester? When meeting strangers; Why not try a new positive outlook? See how a smile feels. Encourage yourself to be brave and bold. Strangers are an ideal test audience for new material. And if it doesn’t fly, you never have to see them again. Embarrassed only ’til you turn the corner; meet someone new and try again. Never be anyone but yourself. Fake accents are not recommended, unless you can pull it off long term. Each new encounter is ripe with possibilities. Who knows, you could find a super friend. Someone you never would’ve met if you had nothing in common. And if you’re together somewhere, then you have one thing in common.

Somedays, it’s hard to take my own advice. But there have been so many times this has worked out so well for me. I’ve met people of distinction in casual conversation. I have made surprisingly wicked friends. There have been lucky days and failed material, but I am gonna keep at it. Somehow, I would like to continue making new impressive impressions. Currently, I am hoping to make friends with my neighbor who loves jamming…as I also like to jam. But honestly, I can’t impress enough the importance of first, second, third and eventually fiftieth impressions. So today, why not try being the person you want to be? Cuz, if you make both feet your best, it’ll be easy to put them forward.

Who Will You Choose To Be?